Making Good Choices

I recently walked in on a situation where someone was very upset, and the support staff were doing a great job in walking the person through a dialogue to help them regulate.  I did what I needed to and exited the scene so as not to complicate the conversation with my presence.  Before I left, I heard this question: “Do you think you are making good choices right now?”  Exit stage right for me, but the question was already settling in my brain.  Do I think I am making good choices right now?  When I reach for the sugary treat rather than the veggies, when I watch another episode on Netflix instead of taking a walk, when I put off yet again anything resembling a deep clean of my house in favour of a fun adventure.  Am I making good choices?  I think sometimes I am, sometimes the fun adventure is more of what I need than trying to figure out what is stuck to the floor under the garbage can.  And sometimes I am not, avoiding my to do list as it grows, affecting my energy level and health with poorer snack choices.  Just like the situation I happened upon, it is helpful if in the moment we can take a moment to reflect, to ask the question, is this the right thing?  It is in the reflecting that we can make sure we are not just on auto pilot, being mad at a  person because of a story I am telling myself rather than what is actually happening.  A moment to question could be all we need to reset our actions and be present in what is true in the present moment and then in that pause choosing what is the good or better choice.  Especially when we are angry, what we see is what we look for so in the heat of the moment everything can look like something that reaffirms our angry feelings. It is hard to do, but from somewhere we should try to hear the important question and create just a little space to see what is actually in front of us.  Are you making good choices right now?