The holiday season seems to elicit the same mix of emotion with me at the end of it every year. I start to feel overwhelmed by the decorations and start to crave the wide-open spaces that usually exist. While at the very same time, I am a little sad about the ending of the holiday season and feel a sense of loss at the thought of packing away all my precious decorations. These are opposite emotions and reactions to the rather large number of decorations that I put up each year. Each year logic takes over and I put away the decorations for another year. Then move into the new phase of competing emotions, the simple enjoyment of the wide-open spaces and the remorseful thoughts of the season ending. This can happen, where we hold two different, perhaps opposite feelings or thoughts, where we truly feel torn about something. How do you figure out the next step? I think what I have learned is that not rushing to figure out what to do next is important, sitting with the question, spending time looking at all sides, asking more questions for clarity – are all important. I have also come to realize that if I do this well in the pause, the path forward will become clear as I work at holding the space in my mind to have a think. And while my holiday decorations are a simple conundrum, the more complex decisions take time and energy to wade through. It is more than possible to hold two positions or opinions, sometimes we may be able to just continue, sometimes we have to decide on one and go.
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