I spent a full day in a meeting in the basement of a church, after the meeting I went home, did a virtual meeting with a group in Haliburton, had some supper, went to my book club meeting, parked on the street for the meeting and later came home. Once home I had a message from a neighbour and church member saying that she was sorry she ran into my car earlier. I had not noticed, but once alerted could see that my driver door did have a scrape and dent in the center. She was so anxious in telling me and assuring me that she did not mean to leave the scene of an accident but got flustered. She was worried that my reaction would be anger. Anger? I did not feel a jot of emotion beyond relief that she had taken responsibility and mild annoyance that I would need to go through the motions of repairing my “new to me” car. But anger, nope, I had been to Lindsay parked on the street, had yet to notice the damage, if she had not owned up, I would have eventually noticed and would have paid myself to fix it. I think sometimes we get anxious applying emotions to another party and it stops us from making a call, asking a question, offering a suggestion. And yes, people can get angry or resent feedback sometimes, but I think more often, people take those ideas about our dents and scraped places and make changes, glad to have been alerted.
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